A bit about me ...
For twelve years, I have been in a wonderful, vibrant partnership that, like any relationship, has its challenges. There are moments of doubt, anger, and hopelessness – just as there are moments of deep connection and love. Through all these highs and lows, we learn to constantly reconnect, truly listen to each other, and grow together. Today, we are not only strongly connected as a couple but also as parents. Sharing my knowledge about healthy conflict resolution and maintaining passion is something that deeply motivates me.
For me, the relationships we cultivate with ourselves and others are what make life worth living. That’s why I support people in shaping their relationships to be nourishing and fulfilling – so they can enjoy the beautiful aspects of life and navigate the inevitable challenges with more ease. I particularly work with couples with differing libidos, those who find themselves repeatedly caught in conflicts, or those facing challenges in their non-monogamous relationships.
I help people recognize relationship dynamics and find new ways to keep connection, closeness, and intimacy alive. As valuable as relationships are, sometimes it’s equally important to recognize when a connection no longer serves us. I support individuals in accepting this realization, finding clarity, and fostering appreciation for what was while remaining open to what lies ahead during the process of separation.
My professional journey has taken me through various worlds: After working as a product manager for a few years, I was driven by a passion to fully dedicate my energy to interpersonal relationships. So, I completed training couples and sexual therapy focus on relationship dynamics (beziehungsdynamische Paar- und Sexualtherapie) and became a licenced non-medical Practitioner for Psychotherapy (Heilpraktikerin für Psychotherpie). For years, I have been leading workshops on nonviolent communication, Bowlby’s attachment theory, jealousy, the challenges of non-monogamous relationships, and mindful and authentic sexuality.
I believe that understanding attachment theory is essential, as our early experiences profoundly shape how we love, argue, and allow intimacy. I’ve shared this knowledge in numerous workshops because it has deeply impacted me: in my childhood, I went through traumatic, violent experiences that continue to influence my attachment style today. At the same time, I was fortunate enough to have many beautiful experiences, and I still have a profoundly meaningful relationships, full of depth, gratitude, and pride. These contrasts have shaped me and shown me that healing is possible – and that through positive experiences, we can build nourishing relationships.
In addition to my therapy work and workshops, I host temple nights – safe(r) spaces for sensual self-expression, initimacy, conscious encounters, and new experiences. Feel free to visit the OASIS website or Instagram to read more about it. And as a balance to the otherwise structured routine, I enjoy sitting in the sun, being in flow with my family on days without appointments, or bringing a white canvas to life with colors and glitter.
I look forward to meeting you!
Jarla
Relationship dynamic couples and sexual therapy
In my therapeutic approach, I address relationship and sexual issues by focusing on the relationship itself, raising awareness and changing attitudes, and integrating body-oriented methods. For me, the dynamic is at the center – those recurring patterns that appear in your current or past relationships. Some of these patterns enrich the relationship and contribute to the shared magic, such as common rituals, while others harm it, such as recurring escalating conflicts. I help you first recognize and understand these patterns, and then we work together to identify where they can be changed. Depending on the context of the relationship dynamics, I also incorporate early childhood experiences, similar to psychoanalytical methods, or work with behavioral therapy approaches. I understand conflicts as a mirror of relationship dynamics. This means that I do not view sexual problems in isolation as dysfunctions, but rather as expressions of deeper relationship dynamics and communicative messages. I place particular emphasis on integrating tabooed content into communication, such as sexual desires, emotional wounds, or unconscious fears. These often unspoken topics are frequently the source of hidden conflicts and tensions. The goal of my work is to create a deeper and more fulfilling connection by addressing these unsaid topics and integrating them into relationship communication.

seminars in 2025
January
Tempel der Sinne
April
Tantric BDSM Tempel für Frauen
May:
Tempel der Sinne für Frauen
July:
Tempel der Sinne für alle
Tantric BDSM Tempel für Frauen
Liebeszeremonie @ Mit Dir Festival
August:
Blindes Gleiten – Tempel für Frauen
Umgang mit Wut @evolve Festival
September:
Tempel der Sinne – für Frauen
Conscious Knutschen @ Mystic Creatures Festival
October:
Führung und Hingabe – für Frauen
Tempel der Sinne für alle
December:
Blindes Gleiten – Tempel für Frauen
seminars in 2024
October
Tempel der Sinne
September
Tempel der Sinne
August
Undressing Ritual @ Be Skin Habibi (Naked Dance Party)
Mono Poly Desires: Find your Relationship Path Workshop @ Bucht der Träumer Festival
Conscious Knutschen @ Bucht der Träumer Festival
July
Hot Monogamy & Cool Polyamory Workshop @ Mit Dir Festival
Mono Poly Desires: Find your Relationship Path Workshop @ Hedoné Seminar
Tempel der Sinne
May
Tempel der Sinne
Authentic Pleasure @ evolve X green yoga urban festival
April
Embodiment of Emotions @Celebrate the Planet
seminars in 2023
December
How to navigate jealousy
Non-violent communication
November
Non-violent communication
September
How to navigate jealousy @ Hedoné Seminar
Conscious Knutschen @ Hedoné Seminar
Conscious Knutschen @ Mystic Creatures Festival
August
Conscious Knutschen @ Wilde Möhre Seelenkiste Festival
April
Reduce conflicts by Understanding Attachment Styles
March
Love Ceremony
February
Reduce conflicts by Understanding Attachment Styles (3x)
Love Ceremony